“My parents took Dan Carle’s advice. As a family, we didn’t speak directly about the abuse until I confronted my parents while I was in treatment at the age of seventeen. On several occasions over the past 30 years, we have discussed and tried to deal with all of the effects of the abuse (addictions, relationship problems, etc.) but rarely the abuse itself.” – Victim of Michael Weber
[Note: Dan Carle has counseled pedophile priests, victims of pedophile priests, and comforted the Wetterlings. In 1998, Dan Carle surrendered his license to practice social work [ View ]. He continues to counsel victims of sexual abuse. ]
The quote above is from a statement received from a 1970’s victim of Michael Weber.
The victim continued:
“I have since learned that, at the time of the abuse by Michael Weber, Dan Carle was employed by the St. Cloud Diocese as a Marriage and Family Counselor for Caritas Family Service Agency and have attached to this statement a reference to this position and his term of employment.”
After graduating from Saint John’s University in 1961, Dan Carle spent three years (1961 to 1964) as a corrections counselor with the Minnesota State Department of Corrections. From 1964 to 1974 he was a therapist with Catholic Charities in St. Cloud. From 1974 to present, records indicate that Carle has been associated with several private counseling centers in the St. Cloud area including:
Family Counseling and Parenting Center
Carle Institute for Strength-Based Management
Family Counseling Associates
Center for Family Counseling
Center For Family Counsel
As a private counselor, Dan Carle met with at least one family victimized by a Saint John’s Abbey monk. According to a woman who was a minor during counseling:
“I felt Dan Carle was inappropriate at times. During one family meeting he asked my parents how often they were sexual. We were all kind of horrified at that question. He also shared that he and his wife did not always lock the door when they were being intimate.”
In 1998, Dan Carle lost his social work license due, in part, to boundary issues.
Evidence of Carle’s boundary issues may have appeared eight years earlier:
Dan Carle, a friend who counsels the Wetterlings, says the family displays no vindictiveness. “They seem to have a quality of being able to forgive … to hope,” he says. “There is a spiritual dimension to this family deeper that I understand.” – AP, February 8, 1990
… and six years later:
“Carle says he and his wife became friends with the Wetterlings about four years before Jacob was abducted. It brought the two families even closer. ‘We’ve been kind of hanging out together ever since. She gets to cry on my shoulder, and occasionally I get to cry on hers,’ Carle says.” - MPR, May 11, 2004
“Longtime friend Dan Carle, who spent a great deal of time with the Wetterling family after their son Jacob was kidnapped in 1989, provides some insight.” – NPR, November 4, 2004
As more light is shed on Dan Carle’s role in the Michael Weber situation, the public will undoubtedly learn more about his role in other cases of misconduct.
Did he provide other children to Weber?
Who else did he protect?
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Originally Posted on Dec 13, 2011
Updated March 22, 2013